Couples and Conflict
I know it's been awhile. Life seems to speed up the older I get! Before you know it another year has almost pasted! Things you say you'll get to tomorrow, turns into weeks. Weeks turn to months and months years...
So We have to focus more on the things that drive us and motivate us to be our best self. I lost sight of that with day-to-day business but resolve to do better going forward! Thank you to the people who still believe in me!
I want to address the issue of conflict and couples. I'll admit, my marriage was pretty easy in a lot of ways. I didn't have a lot of pushback from my ex. He just went along with the flow. But in the end it's what drove a wedge between us. I wanted someone who would call me out on stuff. I mean no one can be right ALL the time. But he wouldn't. Which led to apathy and a general non-caring attitude. However my current relationship is the complete opposite. It can be hard to adjust to but I like it more because I feel more cared for. It's similar to a parent setting boundaries for a child. If a child can do whatever they wish, that means they are really all alone and not cared for because they are in control, not cared for by someone. I think a relationship between two partners is much the same.
I admit it can get frustrating at times if there is miscommunication but its a sign of caring if someone you love has the guts to say hey, your only fooling yourself! I love my partner dearly! He calls me out and builds me up! The balance is crucial!
So show that someone you care about you love them, call them out if they are lying to nobody but themselves, but balance it with an equal measure of building them up with gratitude and appreciation!
Balance and honesty are key!